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Domestic Violence and the Workplace: A Handbook for Employers


Domestic violence compromises the safety of thousands of New York State (NYS) employees every day, with tragic, destructive and often fatal results. This handbook is designed to help create an informed, supportive workplace culture and to assist managers, supervisors and co-workers in recognizing possible signs of domestic violence.

It is recommended that all public agencies and private organizations develop and implement a domestic violence and the workplace policy. 

Upon hire, all employees should receive and sign a copy of the policy, acknowledging that they have read the document and understand where to go if they are being abused by a current or former partner and/or if they are concerned that a coworker may be a victim of domestic violence. When an organization provides all employees with domestic violence information as part of the standard hiring practice, employees who are being abused are less likely to feel singled out and may be more receptive to seeking assistance. Additionally, such a proactive approach to domestic violence in the workplace is a preventive effort and communicates to all employees that the employer is committed to maintaining a safe and healthy environment for everyone, which sets a tone of professionalism, respect and zero tolerance for violence of any kind in the workplace.

An essential component of any domestic violence and the workplace policy should include contact information for local domestic violence service providers who specialize in assisting victims.  These services are provided at no cost to the employee or the employer.  Once identified, employees who need assistance should be connected with the local domestic violence service providers.

Why has domestic violence become a workplace concern?
Workplace Safety

Pull quote: Domestic violence threatens company employees and poses a threat to the safety of the workplace.

It Affects Many Employees

Domestic violence also happens to men and occurs in same-sex relationships. While some male victims of domestic violence are abused by female partners, the majority of male victims are abused by other men. Learn more from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence’s handout, Male Victims of Violence, at

Security and Liability

Pull quote: Employers have a legal obligation to protect the rights of victims of domestic violence.

Health Care
Performance & Productivity
What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is often mischaracterized as family violence which can include the abuse of children by parents and the abuse of elderly or older parents by adult or adolescent children. Domestic violence is also often referred to as intimate partner violence. However, for the NYS Domestic Violence and the Workplace initiative, Domestic Violence is defined as the following:

Domestic Violence is a pattern of coercive tactics, which can include physical, psychological, sexual, economic and emotional abuse, perpetrated by one person against an adult intimate partner with the goal of establishing and maintaining power and control over the victim.

Pull quote: Victims may be controlled and terrorized and never be physically assaulted.

What does it look like?

Often people think of domestic violence as physical or sexual assault.  While that is true, it is only part of the picture. Many victims are never physically or sexually assaulted but are controlled and terrorized by their partners using non-physical tactics such as:

What does it look like in the workplace?

Colleagues, managers and supervisors may detect a pattern of one or more of the following signs/ behaviors in the workplace that MAY be an indicator of domestic violence:

Pull quote: If you see or suspect something, say something.

What can I do?

The presence of the signs/behaviors listed above does not mean the employee is definitely a victim of domestic violence.  However, if you are a manager or supervisor and you notice these signs in your employee, or if you have other reasons to suspect that they might be a victim of domestic violence, it is time to ask some questions, in private, away from other staff.  For example:

If you are a concerned co-worker, you might want to say:

Asking these questions and making these statements might be uncomfortable at first, and employees may not readily admit that there is anything wrong. However, by speaking with the employee, you are sending the message that you have seen something, you are saying something, and you are willing to assist them if and when they are ready. While they may not be open to assistance when you first speak to them, you have planted the idea that someone has noticed and is available to help. 

If we say nothing, we are sending the message to our colleague that they are on their own and we don’t want to be involved. Ultimately, by not saying anything we are reinforcing the perpetrator’s control and dominance. Reaching out conveys the message that they are not alone. 

Pull quote: Doing nothing sends the message that the workplace doesn’t care.

It is important to note that not all employees will feel comfortable or able to help victims in the same way.  It is ok to feel unprepared or unsafe when you think about reaching out to a victim of domestic violence. Employers should identify an employee (or several employees) who has had some domestic violence training as a “go to” person in the domestic violence and the workplace policy. This person should be available if one employee has concerns about the safety of another employee.

What if they confirm they are experiencing domestic violence?

Pull quote: Safety planning is essential. Develop a workplace safety plan and refer the employee to your local domestic violence service provider.

What shouldn’t I do?

Remember, leaving can be very dangerous and may not be the best immediate choice.

Why doesn’t the employee leave the situation?

Many people who are abused by their intimate partners don’t want the relationship to end, they want the abuse to end.  Even under the best of circumstances, it is not easy to end a relationship with an intimate partner.

Living with the trauma of domestic violence, victims are often trapped by circumstances, feelings, thoughts and social norms.

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No place to go…THIS IS NORMAL…all relationships are like this…MY PARTNER IS A GOOD PROVIDER…leaving job/finding new employment…FEAR OF SERIOUS PHYSICAL HARM TO SELF, FAMILY, FRIENDS, PETS… want the abuse to end, not the relationship to end… NO AFFORDABLE CHILD CARE…no affordable housing…MEDICAL BENEFITS…Never hits me…IT ONLY HAPPENS WHEN MY PARTNER DRINKS, IS STRESSED, ETC....Court costs…SUICIDE THREATS…Custody/visitation concerns…LOVE…Value system/religion/ culture…CHILDREN MAY HAVE TO CHANGE SCHOOLS, LEAVE THEIR HOME, THEIR “STUFF” THEIR PETS AND THEIR FRIENDS…Fear that harm will come to the abusive partner…AGE…System failures (social services, law enforcement, courts)…FAMILY/SOCIAL PRESSURE TO STAY…Hope that it won’t happen again…CHILDREN BLAME NON-OFFENDING PARENT… It’s my fault, so I can fix it…DISABILITY…Immigration concerns…I DON’T WANT MY PARTNER TO LOSE THEIR JOB…Embarrassed…THIS IS WHAT I DESERVE…no one will believe me…OVERWHELMED…Ashamed, MY PARTNER’S FAMILY WILL DISOWN ME…The police won’t be able to keep my abuser is jail and it will be worse when they come home…FEAR…Exhausted…I CAN’T MAKE IT ON MY OWN…Failure… ADDICTION…

Love, family, shared memories and commitment are bonds that are hard to break.

There are risks attached to every decision a victim of domestic violence makes and the risks of leaving often outweigh the risks of staying. Seeking help or deciding to leave only makes sense to a victim when it reduces the overall risks to the victims and their family.

You may never fully understand all the factors that go into a victim’s decision to remain with an abuser, but offering unconditional support and assistance is something you can do regardless of whether the victim and abuser remain together.

Who are domestic violence service providers?

The good news is that the workplace does not need to be an expert in domestic violence. In NYS there are professionals—local domestic violence service providers—in every county. These programs are free and confidential to everyone seeking assistance, and providers are available to assist employees in developing a personal safety plan whether they are planning to stay with their partner or leave their partner. Safety planning is a process of evaluating the risks and benefits of different options and identifying ways to maximize safety and minimize risk.

In addition to emergency hotlines, local domestic violence programs also offer:

Employees can utilize program services even if they remain in the home with their partner.

To locate the local domestic violence service provider in your county visit or call the NYS Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotline at 1-800-942-6906.

Pull quote: You don’t have to be an expert in domestic violence.  You just need to refer employees to the people in the community who are!

What is our legal responsibility?
Domestic violence and the workplace policy

Why do organizations such as government agencies, not-for-profit service providers, businesses and other groups need a formal policy on domestic violence? Domestic violence victims and perpetrators can be found in an organization’s client population, staff and stakeholders, whether or not they are formally identified. For some organizations, identifying domestic violence victims and perpetrators, and working with them, is part of their daily mission. For others, domestic violence may be a hidden problem, and the individuals, whether they are clients or staff, less identifiable. Whatever the case, if organizations lack awareness of how to identify domestic violence, and do not create guidelines and policies for how to respond appropriately, they can unwittingly endanger and isolate both clients and staff, as well as inadvertently enable abusive behavior. The New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence (OPDV) strongly recommends that every workplace develop a Domestic Violence and the Workplace policy. This will communicate workplace practices that will promote safety in the workplace and respond to the needs of victims of domestic violence. In addition it will set a tone by communicating that domestic violence will not be tolerated and that information and support will be provided to all employees. 

Pull quote: Having a formal policy lets employees know that you have a plan in place to assist victims.

Policies should include the following:     

A Model Domestic Violence and the Workplace Policy for Private Business can be found at

For technical assistance with policy development, NYS businesses should contact OPDV at

Workplace Safety Plan Meeting

Upon notification that an employee is in need of a workplace safety plan, and/or upon submission of an order of protection (OP), the appropriate staff person(s) will meet with the employee to assist with the development and implementation of an individualized workplace safety plan.

The Guidelines on the following pages will assist employers with that meeting.

Domestic Violence and the Workplace Safety Plan Meeting Guidelines

In accordance with the Domestic Violence and the Workplace Policy, all efforts will be made to assist an employee who comes forward with a domestic violence issue.


The agency/company wants to support them and enhance their safety in the workplace.
Confidentiality will be maintained to the extent possible. Limitations may exist if it is determined that maintaining confidentiality puts the victim or others at risk of physical harm, is required by law, or deemed necessary to enforce an order of protection (OP). Disclosures will be kept to a minimum to ensure safety, and the employee will be notified of any disclosures that occur. (See policy for additional confidentiality guidelines.)


How can we best support you?
Are you receiving threatening calls/emails at work?
Are you being followed to work and/or is the individual coming to your worksite?
Does the individual work in the same agency/company and/or building?
Do you have an order of protection? If yes:
Review the agency/company OP procedure with the employee and encourage them to always keep a copy of the OP with them.
Ask if they want to provide a photo of the individual so that it can be provided to security and/or appropriate staff.
Ask if they would like someone within their worksite to know about the situation to better assist them should the need arise.
Ask the employee to notify you immediately if there are any changes, including cancellation or expiration, of the OP.

DISCUSS POSSIBLE OPTIONS. When appropriate and with the employee’s agreement, the agency/company may be able to:
Set up procedures for alerting security and/or police. 
Temporarily relocate the employee to a secure area.
Alter the employee’s work schedule.
Change the employee’s email address.
Change the employee’s phone number/block number/screen calls.
Reassign the employee’s parking space.
Provide the employee with escorts to and from the building.
Accommodate a voluntary transfer or permanent relocation to new worksite.
Please consult policy for additional guidelines on providing options.

CONFIRM that the employee has been referred to Employee Assistance AND to their local domestic violence service provider. Offer the employee a copy of Finding Safety & Support. (Be certain to point out the risks of the offending individual finding the publication.)

DOCUMENT details of your discussion and the components of the agreed-on safety plan.

FILE the OP in accordance with agency/company Domestic Violence and the Workplace Policy, and file documented notes in a separate file in a secure location.
The New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence (OPDV) is available to assist you with domestic violence policy development and domestic violence and the workplace training. In addition, OPDV will provide technical assistance for any domestic violence issues that arise in the workplace. For more information please contact us at, or call 518-457-5740. 

If it is determined that an employee is utilizing agency/company resources to victimize anyone, consult management.

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NYS Domestic & Sexual Violence Hotline
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English & español, multi-language accessibility
711:  Deaf or Hard of Hearing
In NYC: 311 or 1-800-621-HOPE (4673)
TDD: 1-800-810-7444

The Hotline responds to and is a resource for victims of domestic and sexual violence, concerned others, and professionals, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Funded by the New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence, the hotline provides trained counselors who respond to a variety of service needs, including: crisis intervention, supportive counseling, information and referral services, and technical support to providers. Call the Hotline to find domestic violence programs by county or get a list online here:

New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence
(518) 457-5800        Fax (518) 457-5810

To order additional copies of this handbook, and/or Finding Safety & Support, visit  

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