Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence

Information for Professionals

Mental Health

Overview of the Issue: How can I get her to see that she needs to leave?

This is the wrong question!

You should not make getting a victim to leave her partner the goal of counseling. Her goals are what matters, not yours. If you pressure her to leave, she will feel – and rightly so – that you don’t understand the danger she is in or the obstacles she faces.

Don’t make getting her to leave the goal of counseling.

Things to understand about the issue of leaving: