Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence

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You Are Not Alone

Are you a victim of domestic violence?

When people think about domestic violence, they mostly think about physical abuse. Domestic violence is much more than the physical abuse, and can also include emotional, psychological, financial and sexual abuse. If you’re not sure if you are a victim of domestic violence, use the checklist below to help you. While this list is not a complete list of all abusive behaviors, it may help you identify whether you are being abused by your partner.

This is not your fault

Most abusers minimize, deny and blame. They might make you think that the abuse is your fault, that you made them behave that way. They might blame the abuse on stress, alcohol, problems with work or finances. They might say that the abuse didn’t happen at all, or that it wasn’t a big deal. The only thing that causes domestic violence is the abuser choosing to abuse. Nothing you do causes it, and nothing you do can stop it. Only an abuser can choose to stop abusing.

You are not alone

Domestic violence can happen to anyone. It can feel isolating, like no one understands what you are going through, or why it may be hard to end the relationship. There are challenges and risks to leaving. More resources are available now than ever before to help. You don’t have to go through this alone.

Help is available

Your local hotline can provide you with information on domestic violence resources in your community.

For the hotline number of your local domestic violence program, call the New York State Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotline at 1-800-942-6906, English & español/Multi-language Accessibility. Deaf or Hard of Hearing: 711. In NYC: 1-800-621-HOPE (4673) TDD: 1-866-604-5350.

For more information
There is a lot of help available for victims of domestic violence and those who love them. Check out these resources for more information.